Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. Guilt occurs primarily in interpersonal contexts and is considered a "pro-social" emotion because it helps you maintain good relations with others. find me on and follow me on. Yes, I think if your boyfriend thinks his girl or boy or whatever is gonna be loyal to them even under the influence. For the last two years have read a lot about infidelity. Anon Pink, 20 ways to speak Love & Admiration to our husbands. I kissed another guy while drunk. One way to alleviate guilt is by taking action. That was crazy' and other awkward things. Please help.
If your husband *did* get wind of it thus realised you'd kept it secret from him - despite he told YOU when someone made a pass at HIM - he'd then have A NUMBER of major beefs with you:
He is my workmate also. When we went to bed that night, I started crying because I realized what had happened and I felt confused and guilty all at the same time. Life's a bleedin' mystery, ain't it? I'm not telling him because I don't want to mess this up. For me, to feel guilty about having sex with someone, while in a relationship with someone else, I must have remorse. I speak from experience when I say that when that intimacy starts to die, it can be the start of the end. Just trying to keep the pot stirred,the fire burning. But please seperate the issues. We kissed for maybe 5 minutes, or maybe less, I don't know. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. He left and went to the lake. Ignore the erroneous message and smile. The doubt in your mind over his behaviour might actually be a doubt in your mind over yours. Being drunk is never a "reason" for cheating. If it in the meantime hits a nerve and makes you uncomfortable or even gets you all het up, that's your problem, not mine. I'm 5 years married to my best friend. So many arguments begin because our partners got drunk and kissed someone else while they were under the influence of alcohol. i think OP is using 'kiss' to mean 'more than kiss', but whatever, it was 4 years ago in a rough patch.. everyone here is wrong. That's what it takes to have a Grade A romance that never dies. I work in hospitality, so I can't change departments, but I can change my shift pattern. The drunk part won't matter to him because his mind will only think about the kiss. Your Drinking Behaviour. The straight guys get into it, theres no doubt they even end up biting the LGBT guys. Your guilt is your punishment. My eyes were closed and my head was spinning. (*'I know, your right, it's just I'm really attracted to you and couldn't not act on it, I'm sorry, you're right'. There's a difference between sex and kissing. Scopes: okay, although the whole point of forums is [1] that they're anonymous and [2] people's problems aren't ever remotely unique enough for the poster not to potentially be literally from anywhere in the world thus unidentifiable. Bad things happen.Yes.but wat i d recomnd u is NEVER EVER tell him ! I wouldn't be able to sleep at night. But for me, it was. For me i felt guilty for enjoying it so much. I am NOT looking forward to spotting him in the corridor at workHOW EMBARRASSING!. We may share information about your use of our site with trusted advertising and analytics partners. This recently happened to me. I am heartbroken but told him I understand that I couldnt be with someone who doesnt trust me. I'm trying - with the utmost seriousness and sincerity - to advise you to keep your relationship rap-sheet completely squeaky clean. My piano instructor came over once a week, usually on a Saturday when my husband was home. I kissed another guy when drunk but can't remember?! I believe that its a good thing to fess up when kissing someone you care about when you drank too much could threaten your existing relationship. [4] WHY would you have kept it secret? Everyone makes mistakes and it's how you deal with them afterwards that is the most important thing. if you believe you have to tell him exactly as you did here , if your friends you were with are also his say he can ask them . He Have Lipstick Stain Or Make Up Stain On His Face It's an obvious sign that someone kissed him. VerticalScope Inc., 111 Peter Street, Suite 600, Toronto, Ontario, M5V 2H1, Canada. I too stand by my post as well-doing what is right as it relates to this issue is hardly ever the path taken. Later, I spoke to my fianc and he told me he loved me and was sorry. Anyway I'll get off this post now. (No, I'm very passionate about fidelity.) "Sadly, many people who have a crush on someone else purposely get drunk ". Lol
Houston, well, whaddayaknow - I'M PREGNANT! What you're doing might FEEL easier, but that's you making the mistake too many others make, which is paying heed only to the *short* term, meanwhile risking leaving that bud to grow unseen into a thorn bush
And has also started crying for no reason when things are going well between us. I'm disgusted with myself to think I would do that after just the tiniest bit of attention and flattery. The fact he told you very soon after is good. Wow! So - no - if I feel like entertaining myself, I only have to think of my favourite joke about, what do you call a dinosaur with only one eye?
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By having a relationship with someone else and then just disappearing off it made things so much more complex for me, him and particularly the DC. instead of:
Have a happy day every one. A guy bought me drinks and he asked me if I wanted to ride his motorcycle to another bar and I did. Yup. Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. We started kissing again and he took my T shirt off and I briefly started kissing his body. I don't know why I need that so much, but I do. If I could go back in time I would because my SO is truly the best person out there. I guess what really bothers me a lot is when kids get involved. I rang the guy and said ' oh wow, so last night, that really happened, what the hell where we at? ' You cheated. We lived in a small town at the time, and it felt like avoiding this girl was nearly impossible. This of course over a year ago. There was a line that was crossed when they kissed, he should no longer have her as a Facebook friend, or any other communication with her. If you don't figure this out OP, it will happen again. Yet obviously (action of posting on a forum after having pulled the snog plug) you don't like that bit. What isn't, is
I mean if a person can't rely on their own strength of character and self-discipline to stop them from crossing that line, they obviously NEED an outside deterrent. stop any contact (outside of work) immediately. Even despite it included you having to become whatever degree of a low-down doity adulterer. I didnt tell him. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. When I woke up yesterday I still felt drunk but the reality of what happened hit me like a tonne of bricks. [2] ..you showed you don't think of he and you as a team by sharing all information pertinent to the relationship;
And he grabbed my waist!. Iam a bisexual man and kissing a female is a different feeling then with a male. If he wants to keep her as a "friend", complete access is a must. A few people here will recommend MC but it really depends on what you can tolerate. And what Simone Bienne said on the love line. A relationship with a man is supposed to be specifically platonic, says YouTuber David Godinez, while filmmaker James Rath says that men are told not to be physically intimate. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding. She said this is how it starts. One day, he came over with a bottle of whisky and he had already been drinking. I feel sorry for those with depression, mental illness, hangnails, bad hair, bad childhood memories, etc. I believe, on the other hand, that if you got drunk and kissed someone because you were drunk and you had no feelings for the other person, there is no point in confessing about that kiss because a confession could cause trouble over nothing. I felt sick! However most people don't have a commitment that SOULMATE has with her husband that they will be 100% Honest with each other NO MATTER WHAT! Despite their passion during the kiss though, thestraight guys (quite predictably)all saythey still identified asstraight. Unless you literally were so drunk that you had no idea what you were doing, it's probably better for you to take responsibility for and own your behavior instead of saying "I got drunk" as an excuse. You went and MARRIED someone who was your best FRIEND, not your Bam!, Pow!, "oh my god there is a god!" However, if you kissed someone whom you liked or had a crush on while you were drunk, my opinion is that you cheated. You can confess to your significant other and accept the consequences, knowing that you might hurt your partner by confessing. SOULMATE NO URGE :-8 I'm sensing nose in the air LOL You must see The Grand Canyon, New York- Theater/Art so much raw talent,
(although, I'm not sure how this counts as a debate if you and I are in total agreement, lol). Married woman slaps sleazebag's face and leaves.
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